Oops, I seem to have upset a few people with my post the other day on winners and losers! I'm guessing the people I upset most were the ones who identified themselves with the losers but honestly that was not my intention.
The thing is, in every situation there are going to be winners and losers. That’s just what life is like a lot of the time. It doesn’t really matter if you like it or not, its still true. The problem starts when people try to make you feel better by telling you that everyone can be a winner or that losing doesn’t matter.
But they can’t and it does.
And the biggest losers in this belief system are the losers. Because everyone has strengths and weaknesses and having enough self awareness to know what yours are is one of the things that will help you spend time and energy where its going to be most effective.
I love to sing but I know I’m never going to be a great singer. Even the dog leaves the room when I start singing along with the radio! But imagine if I didn’t know this. Imagine I was deluded enough to think that with enough positive thinking and self esteem and maybe a bit of meditation I could be a world class opera singer and my friends wanted to make me feel better by encouraging this belief, despite the fact that its obviously something I have no natural talent for.
They’d be wasting my time and theirs, and worse than that they’d be helping me to waste my life and feel bad about myself! Far better to be honest and admit that my talents lie elsewhere and focus on developing what I am good at.
There are winners and losers in every field, and a person who is a loser in one area can be a champion in another. That’s what’s great about this life – there’s room for everyone to succeed as long as they focus on and nurture their personal genius within.
By the way, if you are struggling to identify where your natural genius lies please get in touch. I've got some really amazing tools that help you do just that!